r/AmITheA**hole For Firing A Spoiled Karen?

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r/AmITheA**hole OP owns a daycare for young children, and she runs into a problem with one of her customers, a complete Karen. The Karen keeps trying to guilt trip OP into breaking her own rules and letting Karen's child bring a tablet into the daycare. Karen eventually crosses the line when she tries to make OP the bad guy in her child's eyes, so OP fires her! Karen leaves in tears, leaving OP to wonder if perhaps she was the butthole in this situation.
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  • Oh man... I feel SO bad for the teachers that got reprimanded and shamed for picking on that girl. Boo hoo! 😭 They got the certificates taken away... So horrible... Just kidding. They TOTALLY deserved that. They treated her like shit and karma caught up to them and they’re just pissed about that. Serves them right. 😄

    Kristi BrownKristi Brown9 tuntia sitten
  • Okay, about the wife grieving thing. NTA. Everyone wants to side against him because the wife is grieving and losing her mom. What about her family that she is neglecting? They have a child together. She is his wife. He has needs as much as her and his family wanted to do something nice for him. Everyone needs a break and he needed a break from her depression since she's obviously not seeking professional help. My husband has to deal with my disability all the dang time and the fact he is still with me during the best and worst is awesome, but when he needs a break to go visit someone or hang out, I let him and don't guilt trip him.

    Janae AndreJanae Andre11 tuntia sitten
  • The one with the dead mother in law the guy is a 10/10 butthole giant crybaby

    Mr AmazingMr Amazing14 tuntia sitten
  • Re the first story: if it was a problem in the beginning that her boyfriend didn’t want to get married, why did OP stay with him? She basically gave up her own desire for the future to stay with him. Anyway, if he doesn’t want to get married, why is he wanting to pretend at the office? Something is shady here

    ShatnerLoverShatnerLoverPäivä sitten
  • There’s nothing wrong with Ash dating pat, pat is a human being not an object and if Ash and Pat clicked then they deserve to be together. Why have respect for family when family can’t respect you and your relationships

    lostinthasaucelostinthasaucePäivä sitten
  • I'm sorry-- the mom, who purposely riles up her kid before taking him to daycare so she can take away his tablet and make things hard on OP just because she has a no-tablet rule. That mom only gets 2/5 AH? She literally came to the daycare knowing the rules, but instead demanded an exception, and upon being refused, made life difficult for both her son and OP. That should be at least a 3.5-5 AH. OP obviously did nothing wrong. The husband is a complete moron that apparently has no idea how much tablets cost and what happens if you give 1 kid an exception (hint: everyone wants an exception).

    Raybelle AndersonRaybelle AndersonPäivä sitten
  • No child *needs* a tablet, unless they're using it for schooling. My kids were all gifted tablets for Christmas by my mother and not only do they have to earn their tablet time (simple stuff like tidying toys, put their dishes in the sink, being well behaved etc), the tablets themselves very rarely leave the house. The mother was definitely in the wrong on that one, and I have a feeling that she's one of those parents who just leaves their child glued to their tablet all day long.

    Katie SpencerKatie SpencerPäivä sitten
  • Way I see it, the daughter that cheated is the arse hole, and if her sister picked up the guy, then it's HER choice. Ash isn't the arse hole, Liz is. She cheated, and she has to live with the consequences and the fact that her sister is treating him better.

    Malita AshuraMalita Ashura2 päivää sitten
  • On sisters and doc one: nope. 0 buttholes. The girl did cause her own problems and enabling her by "supporting her" is wrong. Nothing wrong with one sister picking up the other's ex boyfriend either. Happens all the time, often with good results all around. The problem here is the cheater.

    Dan SDan S2 päivää sitten
  • That school reminds me of a school that is a huge one it's a private school. They were rivals against ours. The school prioritize "athletes" this school is really huge almost every city or municipality has one. A friend once told me that one of her classmates was an athlete he has really bad scores,almost didn't pass anything,etc. My friend was my neighbor (which now moved to another city) she had really good scores and even showed me almost all of it everytime, we don't go to the same school but our school moves alot faster we were ahead on lessons etc. So I would help her from time to time. The most shocking part is she only got 4th thing(rank thing) and the idiotic classmate got 2nd. This school doesn't treat children right. The mom of my classmate wasn't really bothered by it even though she knows what the athlete was. Sometimes she goes to our house and cries. Not too bad yes but the second part might get you. She moved on to the second grade I think 6th? This boy was already really known and had a group mostly guys and his gf. One day when my friend was walking the group just walked Infront of her and just railed insults even threating her if she tells one of the teachers what they did. She was afraid and cried in the bathroom. She told her teacher and once the teacher heard the boy's name she just said "it's not that bad"(not exactly the thing what she said I forgott) and "just ignore them" they still continued to bully her so I think she had enough and told her mother. The mother went to the school talked to her teacher and the teacher called the bullies and asked them if they did it or not they said "Yes but she started it first" teacher saying "see?" She started it first. Knowing the background of the school a schoolmate that was at 7th grade stood up and testified. The teacher was shocked and baffled. I heard that the boy that testified was suspended which got appealed really fast. The teacher was suspended by the board and the principal. I'm glad that the principal wasn't a douche. She moved to another school after and is still there till this day.

    TerminatorTerminator2 päivää sitten
  • How do Ash and Pat get a butthole rating this high, but Liz gets of scott free? She cheated and he broke up. At this Point they are done and over with, so neither Ash nor Pat owe Liz anything here. If they wanna be together they have the right to do so. Plus if Liz wasn't a bad person then she'd be happy for her sister no matter what instead of brining up issues about the 2 of them being together because it makes her feel awkward. I do agree on the butthole rating for the father though.

    TheAvatarOfInsanityTheAvatarOfInsanity2 päivää sitten
  • That school: we dont care if you get bullied we just educate kids and nothing else we have a therapy person just to make it look like we care ( no offense to those therapy people at school you do an amazing job ) That school being called out: that happened years ago! How dare you call us out!

    Spookims DigimonSpookims Digimon3 päivää sitten
  • Dating a siblings ex is low class AF especially if they dated from a long time. And the response from her parents is cruel ya shit was her fault their right but they weren't kind, caring, understanding, or parental

    SamIAm the Motorcycle ManSamIAm the Motorcycle Man3 päivää sitten
  • The school one, pretty much like my old school 90s/00s time. Thank fuk the school is ruble now :)

    yin yang honeyyin yang honey3 päivää sitten
  • People who cheat are in fact horrible people. Their whole relationship with someone is based on lies and deceit. They know how much it will hurt someone else but they do it anyway because they don't care that is the definition one of many for a horrible person in my opinion.

    Planet Sidewinder GamingPlanet Sidewinder Gaming3 päivää sitten
  • WOW Rslash, your opinion on the Liz/Ash story is gross. She sounds less like she's "going through a dark time" and more like a narcissist. Also, the story makes it pretty clear Ash was dating the dude before finding out he was her sister's ex. I don't think they should have to break up just because Liz couldn't keep it in her pants. Liz fucked her own life up, supporting her doesn't mean making excuses for her behavior.

    Dante AlighieriDante Alighieri4 päivää sitten
  • I can relate to Molly's. I went to a private religious school when I was in elementary school. Those were probably some of the worst years of my life. I didn't have the courage to speak out against the bullying I got from my classmates. On the rare occasions I did let the teachers, my mom, and the principal know what was going on and not a damn thing changed. In fact, things probably got worse when I "Snitched" on them. Years later, I found out that them not doing anything about my bullies was just pat for the course because the kids that bully me had parents that were very influential in the community and/or huge donors to the school. So the toxic culture persisted long after I graduated from that school. I went to public high school in the hood, but that was still way better than that little elitist bully factory I used to go to. So yeah, Molly isn't the butthole but that school district is!

    Uthman BakshUthman Baksh4 päivää sitten
  • So I'm seeing a lot of people saying Ash/Pat are NTA. As someone with siblings, I must explain why I disagree so strongly. Liz and Ash are sisters, full-blooded sisters, and this is Liz's EX-FIANCE. There's no way in hell that Liz/Pat were together for 4 yrs and never met each other's families, including Ash. And the real disgusting detail, that most people overlooked/ignored, is that after 4 yrs together Liz/Pat had to have had sex multiple times. That is beyond disgusting to most siblings, no matter how close they are or not. If you want a comparison: change up the roles a bit. Instead of Pat being Liz's Ex, he's their Mother's Ex-Fiance. That little detail changes everything doesn't it? To most people with siblings it's the exact same thing, just that the family member involved falls in a different place on the family tree. Yes, what Liz has done is her fault, but this is beyond messed up. Ash/Pat are the A-holes too.

    razeredgeroserazeredgerose4 päivää sitten
    • @razeredgerose Liz and Pat are done and over with. At that point both Liz and Pat are free to do whatever they want, get along with whomever they want, and potentially get together with whomever they want. Neither of them have any obligations to live their life with any regards for the other from that point moving forward. Which means if Ash and Pat want to get together they technically have every right to do so. Yes, I agree that it is awkward for Liz, that (should Ash and Pat stay together) she has to somewhat reconcile with Pat if she and her sister want a working relationship. And I can understand if she wouldn't want to do that. But that decission is up to her. Other people don't have to live their live in such a way that it makes her most comfortable. If Liz is close with her sister, then I'm pretty sure Ash would be Ok with helping her out in an emergency and offering support, DESPITE being together with Pat. If Ash didn't do that (despite being close with her Sister) then I could understand the butthole rating for not showing any support. HOWEVER, the way the story is told it just sounds as if Liz has an issue with reaching out for help to Ash because she doesn't want to confront Pat. And if she has an issue with that well, then that's on her. So no, I do not agree with the butthole rating for neither Pat, nor Ash. (at least not until we get an update that goes into more detail about how how they actually treat Liz) But since I know how hard it can be to reach out for help when you're struggling, I actually do agree with the butthole rating for the parent. Who is in my oppinion the only person here to deserve any butthole points in regards to the current Situation. Even if I agree with his point of view. Btw. I think you're reading way too much into WHY Pat and Ash got together. As far as we know, they dated for around a year before the rest of the family even found out that they are a thing. If this was about revenge then I'm pretty sure OP would have been hearing about Liz's concerns regarding this relationship way earlier.

      TheAvatarOfInsanityTheAvatarOfInsanity20 tuntia sitten
    • @TheAvatarOfInsanity it's not about being a good person, even a good person would react the way Liz is reacting to this situation. Absolutely no one disagrees about the fact that Liz ruining her relationship with Pat is her fault, that's already been established, she's paying for it. It's about the boundary crossed. Ash/Pat's relationship is either a SERVERE case of hero syndrome, or revenge. If it's revenge, Pat's looking to get Liz shunned by her family, and if that's the case he has succeeded. I also need to point out that OP is the parent in all this. I bet that while OP told us most of what they know, they more than likely don't know anywhere near enough to know the whole story and what's really happening. I could just be really cynical, but Ash crossed a HUGE boundary with Pat. This is betrayal. They deserve that rating.

      razeredgeroserazeredgerose21 tunti sitten
    • @razeredgerose Revenge scheme? As in: "I'm dating the sister of my ex purely to stay in contact with the family so I can make her feel awkward, everytime we come across each other ." Is this really what you're getting from this story? If Liz was a good person she wouldn't care that her ex got together with her sister. She would have moved on and would just be glad that her sister is happy. And maybe she could use that as an opportunity to reconcile with Pat . But instead, just because she's not happy with how her live went she tries to talk the rest of her family into not being ok with that relationship since she doesn't wanna do something that makes her feel awkward. I understand why she wouldn't want to have Pat be in contact with her family, and I'm not saying that she deserves to be alone and unhappy. I actually agree with the point rslash made about the parent being too cold and callous and the butthole rating for that parent is warrented. But I call BS on the idea that Liz has any say in why Ash and Pat can/ can't be together or them getting a rating this high. Because as harsh as it may sound, the parent is not wrong with his comment of Liz being soly responsible for how her life went.

      TheAvatarOfInsanityTheAvatarOfInsanity23 tuntia sitten
    • @TheAvatarOfInsanity Liz gets of scot-free in this situation because she's already paying for her mistakes. This situation is not about Liz's cheating and break up with Pat, which is what everyone is hardcore focused on. It's about the fact that Ash, literally Liz's immediate family member, being in a relationship with her Ex-Fiance. Liz's cheating is just a passing detail in this story, no different from the detail of Liz/Ash being sisters, or Liz/Pat being Exes. It's important and defining to the story, but not the main point. It just sounds like a revenge scheme by Pat, Ash joined him, and the parents jumped on the bandwagon. To me it looks like a "Liz cheated on a great guy, so fuck her and her emotional state" campaign to me.

      razeredgeroserazeredgerosePäivä sitten
    • I think I see your point. I'm just confused as to how Ash and Pat get a butthole rating this high, but Liz gets of scott free. Liz cheated and Pat broke up. At this Point they are done and over with, so neither Ash nor Pat owe her anything here. If they wanna be together they technically have the right to do so even if it may be a bit awkward. Let me put it this way: Ash could've gotten along great with Pat since all the way back when he was Liz fiancee (Nothing romantic, they're just good friends with Ash being glad that Pat and Liz are happy together). Then suddenly Liz cheats on Pat, they break up and both Liz and Pat are devastated. Ash has the right to stay in contact with Pat to still get along with him and potentially console him as much as she wants for what her sister did to him. And depending on how strained the relationship between the 2 Sisters was to begin with and how well Ash might have gotten along with Pat it's not completely unreasonable to asume that they might get together. And at that point what right does Liz have to say the 2 of them aren't allowed to get together because it makes her feel awkward?

      TheAvatarOfInsanityTheAvatarOfInsanity2 päivää sitten
  • You should check out r/assholeteachers

    Lacey BuggLacey Bugg4 päivää sitten
  • Hrm. Flip the genders. If the wife ran off to celebrate her birthday while the husband was moping around depressed about his parent in hospice, would SHE be the asshole? I do agree he was complaining a bit more than he should have, but to say he doesn't deserve to take a weekend away for his OWN mental wellbeing? YTA rslash for expecting the man to support his wife 24/7 WITHOUT regard for his own welfare. Rotting wood does not support a patio deck.

    DelphineasDelphineas4 päivää sitten
  • Should OP have broken policy for the tablet? Maybe. But that doesn't change that it WAS policy and that the mom was being needlessly rude, when they could've perhaps... tried talking about it for a bit? She got what she deserved, even if OP was a bit strict.

    MaugreMaugre4 päivää sitten
  • Molly's story pissed me off ugh! I went to a terrible Middle School that basically was the same as her highschool but instead the social/popular kids were treated like the golden kids. If you were quiet, shy, nerdy, and anything that wasn't like the "golden kids" then you were basically ignored. One time I was getting bullied by a group of kids and this teacher moves me to the other side of the classroom, not to help me but because I was the one being DiSrUpTiVe once I started standing up for myself. Only for her to move me back to where I was originally after I made a friend and we were talking during a movie(that wasn't even import to the lesson may I add) and I got a detention. This same teacher would get my name wrong everyday and when I corrected her she told me "whatever". Other teachers just flat out ignored the bullying even when you tell them about it. I was paired up into group projects with my bullies and did 99.9% of the work while they would talk with each other and either ignore or harass me. Not only did I ask for a new group and was denied, they would go and lie and say I did none of the work and I would get in trouble and fail(to this day, working in a group makes me so anxious that my stomach with hurt through the whole process). The guidance counselor was no help either. My mom scheduled a meeting with the principal and GC about what was going on. The principal basically told the GC to handle it and didn't do a thing. I remember telling the GC what was happening with 2 different girls who were bullying me. She hears my side, then talks to the girls separately, then brings in their friends. She brings me back in and just started saying things like "are you sure they said/did any of this?" "Maybe the situation wasn't what you remember?" "Did you maybe say something to them first that made them react a certain way?" This lady assumed I was lying and didn't bother to help me afterwards. My mom transfered me out by the time 8th grade came along. I'm 26 yrs old and it's been about 15 years since all this happened and I'm still pissed off about it. So to Molly's old bullies and anyone else who's ever bullied someone, No. No your victim(s) can't just "get over it" just cause it happened a long time ago. Your actions effected them more than you know, it doesn't matter if it's been 10 to 50 years ago, that stuff stays with them forever.

    Freakhead Studios ;DFreakhead Studios ;D4 päivää sitten
  • The one with the daughter who cheated I'd personally say 0/5 butthole since sometimes a person needs to hear the cold truth from someone they respect, sometimes you need to put empathy aside to do the kind thing, yea she's having a hard time, but she was the one making the irresponsible choices.

    Daniel GorodetzkiDaniel Gorodetzki4 päivää sitten
  • A teacher's job- to nuture a a child's interest in learning, teach them the skills and knowledge they need and make them feel safe and comfortable in their classroom. I am quite sure those teachers not only failed miserably at the last one but intentionally did so for unjustified reasons. Yeah they're terrible people and got what was coming to fhem

    RevolverOcelot2008RevolverOcelot20084 päivää sitten
  • I seen nothing wrong with dating siblings/friends exes.. Except: 1) They're a-hole/horrible person.. 2) They had kids with you (especially for siblings) And people who disagree either: 1) Jealous 2) Salty/bitter 3) Can't saw them as an individual but that of an 'ex'..

    Silvery BlueSilvery Blue4 päivää sitten
  • Liz pat and ash story Sorry RSLASH I disagree! You’re assuming too much! That dating exes thing is a ridiculous trope! Liz is a butthole! No one else

    Antonio CasiasAntonio Casias5 päivää sitten
  • 5:03 I’m sorry but I don’t agree. He’s not complaining about makeup or whatever! That is the LEAST on his mind! Who says no to freaking family like that?! It’s not like he out her down or anything! WTF is wrong with a break?

    Matty Bruno Lucas Zenere SalasMatty Bruno Lucas Zenere Salas5 päivää sitten
  • I am with the day care provider on this 100%...my kid has a tablet leap frog thing that was basically forced upon us so she gets it for 1hr every 2 days. Rarely do we go back to back days on it. Because I disagree with it and it you can visibly see how the attention span capabilities shrink when used to often.

    charitysherise20charitysherise205 päivää sitten
  • I’m just putting it here because online stuff doesn’t count for AITA on Reddit. I honestly forgot how to contact the mods (not this Reddit) and I forgot I was now on a different Reddit so different rules. The last time I broke it was when I join a few months back. I used the dog word and I’m making it a habit to not use it. Tbh I had a friend that greeted me with it so it’s a little hard to not us it when I write something emotional for myself. Well it’s bad anyway. They thought me saying I wouldn’t make the mistake of contacting thou the older mistake by deleting to mean I would just delete my account all together. I just meant the message box. So they respond by saying I wasted their time. I really just wanted to say it wouldn’t happen again and if it did than Me getting being ban would be fair. That’s what happens when you keep breaking a rule and it’s up to them to being forgiving or not. I hope writing short messages doesn’t just give a number because it would explain why I got muted. I text weird. If I don’t pay attention each sentence would be a message. If I’m the asshole? Can anyone suggest how to say sorry without sounding sarcastic? Or should I have just taken the fix and just let them think I was deleting my account like some crying baby. It’s the internet it hurts but I should just suck it up and accept that strangers are strangers in the end. Tbh I think im being a dumbass more than an asshole.

    bluewolf0617bluewolf06175 päivää sitten
  • Why just 2 out of 5 buttholes for the mother in the last story? No kid "needs" a tablet. Never. Making a fuss about this is ridiculous. I'd give her at least 4.

    LyshfischLyshfisch5 päivää sitten
  • Dude why would students be mad about a school getting screwed over, like if it was my school I’d be like “haha sucker lmao”

    Robro 3000Robro 30005 päivää sitten
  • Rslash, i get you, but i dont. he didnt "dump" one sister and date the other. one sister CHEATED on him. both pat and ash deserve to be happy, it was CHEATING, cheaters deserve that treatement. imo: liz: 3/5 ash: 0/5 pat:0/5 i mean pat got cheated on here, hes the victim. and ash is just living her life. i wont include the parents as they dont matter too much

    iggiplazeriggiplazer5 päivää sitten
  • OP is definitely not the butt hole in the story. His wife needs to realize that each and everyone of us is an individual answerable only to our own selves. If your wife doesn’t like the fact that you weren’t there when her mother died, maybe you shouldn’t be there at all. You should leave because in my humble experience people with depression are caustic. They will drain the life from you. People with depression and more prone to suicide which would leave you in the exact same position that your wife was in. Why would you choose that? Because you love her? That’s a bunch of horseshit. Love as most humans know it is just a useless emotion created in our own brains to justify attaching yourself to someone some thing or even an idea. That’s not love. That’s fucking sociopathic.Grow up people and introduce yourselves to the real world.

    Maurice JohnsonMaurice Johnson5 päivää sitten
  • Rslash is a butthole

    Johan ClarkeJohan Clarke5 päivää sitten
  • If I was the wife from that Last story after hearing what hubby said I'll be like: "OK fine I'll break policy for you" and call that woman back inside apologise and say *Bring anything from phone to PlayStation idc, but if it breaks contact my husband for the damages OK?"

    Senpai SlaveSenpai Slave6 päivää sitten
  • i don't think 3/5 butt holes is fair for ash. what if it was true love? you would still deny that to your younger brother? i feel that would be more fucked up to do.

    JoshJosh6 päivää sitten
  • I heard molly jokes, but never mooly, if i heard those i’d lose my mind

    good golly miss mollygood golly miss molly6 päivää sitten
  • Also the sister isnt at fault wtf cheating is cheating i dont see the issue with that. You cant choose your family.

    Fire-Brimstone 9Fire-Brimstone 96 päivää sitten
  • That dad is 100% not the butt hole js

    Fire-Brimstone 9Fire-Brimstone 96 päivää sitten
  • i hard relate to the story about the bullying and the school doing nothing to help and opting to instead make the situation worse. nta. i hope i get the option to publicly put my old school on blast.

    AnarchoPossumAnarchoPossum6 päivää sitten
  • The one with the school interview sounded so bad because op had a bad time but the former classmates are talking about op ruining the reputation just because they had a good time there 0/5 buttholes

    Scorch DragonScorch Dragon6 päivää sitten
  • 5:38 oh, so you went to an American school.

    VelVel6 päivää sitten
  • I don’t agree with some of your butthole points you gave for this video. I give this video 3.5 buttholes

    Kevin VieyraKevin Vieyra6 päivää sitten
  • It’s terrible kids at the age of 3 have to have electronics to be entertained now

    Forrest BurnsForrest Burns7 päivää sitten
  • My mom has a saying that fits with the last story, if it’s not an always rule , with kids it’s a never rule

    Dante TosoDante Toso7 päivää sitten
  • Ash and pat are so not that the buttholes in this you don't choose who you fell in love

    Emily LedesmaEmily Ledesma7 päivää sitten
  • Poor Molly-Im kind of in the same boat, I guess. I'd say i had friends in highschool, but my sisters both call them emotional abusers (it...is true that I always felt less-than around them, but the fact was that they WERE better at everything, so ^^'), and a case that comes to mind specifically is this old math teacher. I hated the bastard from day 1-he had that "Young, cool playboy teacher" vibe, and I was generally afraid of people like that. He got the vibe that I didnt respect him, too. He was an AMAZING teacher-but there'd be days where he'd talk to us about something unrelated, or tell some story that basically ended with "You stupid, unproductive kids on your phones could never IMAGINE-" and at the time, my parents didnt allow me a phone and I was especially proud of my projects (sewing,drawing, writing). He even got to me about my grades, and just-every other day or so, being dragged down by this asshole was so stupid. But the problem was-no one else in class saw it that way. Ever. Everyone else /loved/ him, so that begged the question-am I too sensitive? Was I not getting the joke? Was i just imagining it? Its so stupid normal to doubt your own perception with this bullshit, its insane. But my now-bestfriend told me something a while back that I still think back to: "If you felt all that, it was real.". Dont ever doubt the severity of what you went through. Its bad enough that it happened-dont let the "Maybe Im Just The Problem" voice live in your head rent-free.

    Leena SheikhLeena Sheikh7 päivää sitten
  • I disagree with the sister dating the post sisters ex story. I would say NTB for every party involved except for the older sister. I am the younger sister (by nearly 10 years) in a family where my older sister has had every opportunity in her life to make it a good one and she keeps making bad decisions with rough consequences her whole life then she comes crying to us as things fall apart. It's forced my parents to partly ruin my life because they keep expecting me to be her fall back plan. You older sister is getting a divorce, she's going to be your roommate even though you had already arranged to have your friend as you roommate while in college. Your sister is breaking up with her bf, time for you to move from the house you're renting from us because she needs it now and you have your stuff together so you'll figure it out. We can't open our family business for another 5 years because your sister decided to move out of state. Your sister needs your help moving because she decided not to work for a year to work on the relationship with her bf, but now she wants to break up and is broke 1000 miles away. You can take off work at your new job to help, right? My sister's plans, lack thereof, or lack of follow through have constantly hurt my parents financially and hurt my future or forced it to change directions to suit her needs. But she never seems to learn. I think if the younger sister is happy with Pat she should follow her heart. An older siblings mistakes or lack of foresight shouldn't ruin the test of the family and she needed that dose of reality from her father so that maybe she'll wake up from her pity party and realize that she has to take accountability of she wants her life to change.

    Sirarie TicheeSirarie Tichee7 päivää sitten
  • The husband that left while his wife was going through such a horrible time is more than just an a**hole! I lost both of my parents in less then a year and it turned my like upside down. I was so depressed and felt alone. If he wasn't such a selfish jerk, he could've strengthened their relationship and help her get through all the hurt and depression she is going through. Instead of complaining about her makeup and clothes, he should've said that she is stronger then she thinks and he is there for her. I truly feel so sorry for that woman and I hope she can find strength without him.

    shebaoldgirlshebaoldgirl7 päivää sitten
  • The mother and child is mad that the tablet isn't allowed. How mad would the mother and child be if the tablet broke during the day and instead of not having it only during school, he wouldn't have it **at all**. It'd be ay worse and you're really just defending yourself and doing the mother a favor. Besides, a child on the tablet not paying attention to school is just.... unhealthy. Sounds like the mother is so passive that she just let the kid be on the tablet all the time instead of teaching him things at home....

    ZarvixZarvix7 päivää sitten
  • Last story: Karen only gets a 2/5 butthole ranking? I'd say she deserves a solid 3/5 for: 1) letting a tablet raise her kids, 2) keeps trying to convince OP to let them bring it to daycare and then 3) paint OP as the badguy for it when she says no, 2&3 actually being against the daycare's rules.

    Xien TauXien Tau7 päivää sitten
  • what is a teaching award

    WindgeistWindgeist7 päivää sitten
  • How is the husband an asshole for celebrating his birthday. The wife lied to him a lot and even if she didn’t his birthday shouldn’t be forgotten just because of grief

    Joshua MooreJoshua Moore7 päivää sitten
  • That school official who contacted Molly didn't just scold her. They were fucking gaslighting het. That " maybe you remembered it wrong" is TEXTBOOK. They're actively attempting to make OP doubt her own recollection of events.

    Koogar KittenKoogar Kitten7 päivää sitten
  • I disagree with the whole Pat/Liz/Ash thing. At 30 years old with 2 children... Especially with a special needs kids you need to be more responsible. It's not your parents job to watch your children. Your decisions brought you to where you're at. You cheated on a great guy and you lost him, you didn't make good life decisions and now you feel stuck. Granted your sister dating your ex kinda sucks but that was at least 6 years and 2 children ago and she would've been in HS at the time you 2 dated. He's not the same person and she and him seem to be a better fit. Instead of focusing on how you've been "wronged" and how life is "unfair" do something to make it better. Yes it'll be hard but you're still young. Do it for you and your kids.

    Stephanie StephensStephanie Stephens7 päivää sitten
  • I disagree that the wife with dying mother is so cut and dry, and the response rslash read about make up and meals didn't hit the mark either.....better to say he should have discussed a trip solo to cheer up instead of just going it......more to dig into but can't with only one side, too much unknown.

    75ur1575ur158 päivää sitten
  • I went to a special needs school. There were kids who needed the tablet due to speaking disorders and what not. The mother is MASSIVELY in the wrong. The mother could have talked with both the principal and the teacher to hash things out. I have a feeling that this is not the case. But we don't know the whole situation

    luvdisney1996 vluvdisney1996 v8 päivää sitten
  • The teacher story......... 6/5 bh With that kind of study environment is a foundation for successful suicidal thought in children.

    Desmond TangDesmond Tang8 päivää sitten
  • High-level self-knowledge Really low-level knowledge of human nature... Totally Disagree with the second one

    Csaba SzökőCsaba Szökő8 päivää sitten
  • 13:57 "he NEEDS the ipad" I admit that I'm really addicted to my phone too. But no parent should ever say that their kid NEEDS an ipad. only if the ipad is something to cope with emotional trauma which the kid obviously doesn't have so screw that. she is too lazy to raise her own kid. it's easier to claim that a child NEEDS something because it makes the moms job easier. don't get children if you don't want to deal with them. I think we need more people like op who limit electronics. I grew up with only a gameboy and books to read. I certainly am not a saint regarding addiction to the phone/other electronics but at least I'm aware of it and am an adult...

    Darkaigirl NightDarkaigirl Night8 päivää sitten
  • His wife has been grieving nonstop and neglecting to take care of herself And her child for six months, but Dude wants to take a break for one week and he’s the asshole? Give the guy a fucking break.

    Thomas JeffersonThomas Jefferson8 päivää sitten
  • Wtf? The guy upset at his wife has every right to be mad at his wife literally giving up

    J FJ F8 päivää sitten
    • @Kureiji Wrytah that’s part of being an adult?

      J FJ F6 päivää sitten
    • I'm so sorry you hated your mother so much that you're literally incapable of understanding why somebody would get destroyed watching their own mother slowly die of a brain tumor

      Kureiji WrytahKureiji Wrytah6 päivää sitten
  • Yesn’t

    Bill The Deranged DoritoBill The Deranged Dorito8 päivää sitten
  • The tablet story makes me think the mom is likely a very absentee parent who just sits their kid in front of a screen and ignores them, so the kid has no idea how to interact with others or their environment, so he 'needs' the tablet because the mother has stunted his social and mental growth so much he doesn't know what to do without it. OP is still NTA here because it's not her job to fix the mistakes of a parent who can't see the harm they're doing to the kid.

    Ace-of-SnakesAce-of-Snakes8 päivää sitten
  • Ahhh the school sorry makes me think of how bad of a system the Puyallup school district has. I hated going there, because people bullied me for my autism and my weight all the time and teachers would blame me for it all. Made me care less about school, and my grades dropped as a result. I still graduated, but I only had like one friend when I left school. *sigh*

    BrainDamage6452BrainDamage64528 päivää sitten
  • When I was in middle school I got my gym teacher fired because they were encouraging kids to bully me physically (I got knocked out once in the locker room) and verbally. I also had a teacher in high school give me a Mooly-like nickname that stuck. Never underestimate how many evil adults there are in schools, not just kids.

    The DoorThe Door8 päivää sitten
  • Wait so just cause u wouldn't date someone ur brother did doesn't mean no one else can?? How is ash a dick for trying to be happy? That's some entitled shit right there

    Jason BurroughsJason Burroughs8 päivää sitten
  • I never understood the need for grown adults to have birthday parties. Grow up.

    Mary RichMary Rich8 päivää sitten
  • Why does a 3-year-old even have a tablet in the first place?

    Saki LynnSaki Lynn8 päivää sitten
  • Story 2, don't have to hear it, the answer is yes 5/5.

    Sean JSean J8 päivää sitten
  • The birthday dude is an asshole because she is clearly suffering from depression

    BamaBabiiBamaBabii9 päivää sitten
  • The grieving wife should go to grief counselling. Losing a parent must be so painful, but there are people who are trained to help you cope and get through it.

    Daniel Eduardo MoarDaniel Eduardo Moar9 päivää sitten
    • And the husband could go help her get to one

      Quartz SkullQuartz Skull8 päivää sitten
  • That husband yta omg. The author nta an the teachet deserves to get the award taken away. My 3/4th grade teacher got that same award while I was in high school. She braded me gor being dyslexic, an tried to get my little bro expelled from something another student did. She was horrible so much crap happend her husband left her an so did her own kids.

    Cherokee WardCherokee Ward9 päivää sitten
  • i have some feelings about the liz story. i have an older sister, and while we've always loved each other, we haven't always gotten along. she often feels like i get spoiled and that our parents favor me over her. i don't think that's true, but obviously i'm biased. my real issue is with our relationships. my sister's been married for about 5 years now, and she and her wife have been in polyamorous relationships off and on for the past 2. one of their former girlfriends is now my partner. we didn't plan it this way, and obviously we were a bit nervous considering her past with my sister, but ultimately, we decided it wasn't about them. they broke up with her at a low time in her life and all but admitted to cheating on her with another roommate. when she couldn't take it anymore, she came to live with my family, since we were the only people in town she knew. it took us over a year to get to the point of even talking about a relationship because of our hangups. i've talked to my sister since and she's given her blessing, but it's understandably still a bit uncomfortable between us. sorry for the long ramble, but i guess it just frustrates me that ash is obviously the bad guy because she started dating liz's ex. you're right that liz has already dealt with the consequences of that, but that shouldn't affect ash too. she doesn't get to decide what happens with her sister's relationship, especially after she's the one who cheated on him. things like that don't go away overnight. i think you're right that op could have phrased it better, but the problems in liz's life are of her own making and i think she deserves to hear that

    BeaurealisBeaurealis9 päivää sitten
  • firing isnt the best word for the title try r/AmITheA**hole For Kicking Karen Out Of My Daycare?

    SegaFanatic06SegaFanatic069 päivää sitten
  • That last story really annoys me. The kid don't need the tablet unless they have special needs that makes them need it. It's just that the mom allows the kid to have the tablet when the kid causes a scene or she want a quick fix. We don't allow tablets in daycares in Sweden and the kids do just fine without them.

    KiraTheUsagii's WorkshopKiraTheUsagii's Workshop9 päivää sitten
  • I'm probably the only person who doesn't think OP is TA in the 2nd story..

    Danny TannerDanny Tanner9 päivää sitten
  • He’s not the asshole for number two what kinda crack are y’all on.

    Josh DifulvioJosh Difulvio9 päivää sitten
  • I dated a close friend's ex once, worst decision of my life

    12yanschump12yanschump9 päivää sitten
  • O.K., I'm old, but why does a THREE YEAR OLD "need" a tablet. It sounds to me as if the mom has already shirked her parenting off to an electronic babysitter before the kid is even in kindergarten. OP's husband deserves 1/5 but holes for backing the Karen, who is at least a 3 or 4/5.

    YggdrasilYggdrasil9 päivää sitten
  • Parents like the mother in the last story make me sick allowing a young child to be that reliant on a tablet is just child neglect don't let tec raise your kids make them go outside this is how you get entitled monster children who blame everything on someone else and can't imagine anything ever being their fault

    Jason BergJason Berg9 päivää sitten
    • And sacrificing other people just to make sure your kid doesn't think you're the bad guy is just rude and cruel

      Jason BergJason Berg9 päivää sitten
  • Rslash. You are wrong. Ash is not a butthole. Just because you've had a relationship to someone doesn't mean you have "dibs" or that you have "claimed" them for life. If you lose them, you lose them. But everyone is deserving of love. And love has it own set of rules. And what, should the sister getting with the ex pass on what might be the love of her life because once her sister dated him? No. It might be awkward. Sure. But the one who was engaged does not own and will never own the rights to that person. And she cheated. Then she lost all the right to even speak about it. Appreciate what you have or move the F on.

    sdrateR_backwardssdrateR_backwards9 päivää sitten
  • OK. What's the frigging issue with *not* being married? My bet is that the coworkers ate religious extremists who feel "living together out of holy wedlock" us a sin and the boyfriend feels as if he must live up to their expectations. Who else but. Bull headed buybull believers have an issue with this? To the Boyfriend. GTFO of that place. If they are religious extremists, they will find another reason to judge you. Then another, then another.

    Babs BylowBabs Bylow9 päivää sitten
  • rSlash, you're getting 3/5 A's for shitting on Ash. Like was said in the post, Liz cheated, threw a good man away, and Ash was there to scoop him up. And if she's happy with him, that's Liz's problem, not theirs. She's bitter about the consequences of her actions. Tough shit. Someone was going to tell her that sooner or later, it may as well be her parents. It's not callous, it's laying down some truth. "Suck it up cupcake." It'd be one thing if Pat had cheated then started dating Ash. Nope. Liz screwed up, Ash went in for Pat, Liz is out of the loop. The only asshole is Liz, and YOU for thinking a parent should sugar coat a response to whiny bitterness.

    The FUSSThe FUSS9 päivää sitten
  • I don’t think the guy was the butt hole tbh

    Sullivan SeeleySullivan Seeley9 päivää sitten
  • i give pat 0 out of 5 ash 0.5 out of 5 and op and wife 1 out of 5 and liz 3 out of 5 my mom is a bit like liz so i have a lot of experiance with the complaning and i strongly agree with op

    Weston HinshawWeston Hinshaw9 päivää sitten
  • Dealing with the Pat, Ash and Liz story. Honestly I don’t think the dad was a BH. Are the words hurtful, yes. Are they true, yes. The point of parenting is to be a good role model and guide for their children, but eventually the training wheels have to come off so they can survive and thrive in the real world. Liz is 30 something and holding onto the past and acting like the world has been unfair. But there is no such thing as fair and unfair in the real world. This world is about chances and connections. She lost her chance of being with Pat, have no real responsibility’s (kids) before her career took off, etc. but she still has chances to move forward and go farther if she opens her eyes to reality. Which is what I think her parents were trying to tell her, “Put your big girl pants on and suck it up.”

    Kaelynn BarteeKaelynn Bartee9 päivää sitten
  • Kids do Not need a tablet. The tablet is NOT their parent.

    sad potatosad potato9 päivää sitten
  • ~8:00 sounds pretty similar to the school I went too.

    XarestrillXarestrill9 päivää sitten
  • Imagine your mom is dying and you're going through depression, meanwhile your husband is bitching over having to cook dinner FOR HIS OWN CHILD lmao. Wild. Hope she got a divorce

    ThysilliaThysillia9 päivää sitten
  • Wow rSlash as usual ignoring people's emotional connections to one another in the Liz, Pat and Ash story. Do you think that perhaps Ash might have helped and supported Pat after the brutal news his partner had cheated on him and got pregnant? Or that any number of other things may have drawn them close to one another? But nah FAMILY FIRST! right? Even if those blood relatives have burned their bridges.

    Ian KittleIan Kittle9 päivää sitten
  • 4:13 throw out the whole man

    Katherine LudwigKatherine Ludwig9 päivää sitten
  • In regards to the 4th story, I feel expecting Ash to break up Pat to spare Liz's feelings is quite unfair to Ash (and Pat). I agree that OP is 1/5. However Liz is 3/5 as if she just complains about her life on other people rather than accepts the choices she made and learn/moved on/improve upon herself, Ash/Pat is 0.5/5. Sure, it's a bit of a low blow but I hold no blame whatever they choose to stay together or not.

    blue2x2xblue2x2x9 päivää sitten
  • Why is Ash the AH in this situation? Her sister having a prior relationship with the same guy and ending it via cheating isn’t a valid reason for Ash to not date him. She can date whoever she wants regardless of how her sister feels. If Liz is so upset, she needs to stop playing the martyr and tell Ash why, and, even then of Ash still decides to keep dating him, Liz is going to have to back off. The only way Ash would be the AH in this situation would be if Pat was a known abuser and she had kept dating him regardless of that information.

    beeziebubsbeeziebubs9 päivää sitten
  • The 2nd story reminds me of this story : fiworld.info/goon/lIXbmq-dvJyRmYk/videot.html

    pastel wavespastel waves9 päivää sitten
  • Yeeeeeea hard disagree on your ratings of Ash and Pat. Regardless of your relationship with your brother, there's a lot of siblings where this had happened and it worked out just fine. You can't just say "You guys are assholes for liking each other, because on you dated the other's sibling first." Ash didn't steal Pat away. They're not buttholes at all.

    Cain BarthCain Barth9 päivää sitten
  • So I'd date a friend's ex I have no siblings but we da kinda bois if thier ex finds me attractive I ASK if I can date them and if they wouldn't be to hurt and usually they are happier when thier ex's find me

    • In a relationship of 7 MO rn

      THATTOXICGAMER 007THATTOXICGAMER 0079 päivää sitten
  • Ngl but I hate these videos cause somethings me and rslash don't agree but whatever.

    Andrew schicklerAndrew schickler9 päivää sitten
  • Screw you! Lizz made her bed, she can sleep in it. Fair is where bulls and hogs go to win ribbons. You get 3 out of 5 buttholes.

    Charles GentryCharles Gentry9 päivää sitten
  • The school's reaction in the school interview story is just gross as f***. Op didn't ruin the reputation of the school. THEY DID. They KNEW who and what they were. And the fact that their response to past hurts is to try and chastise OP for telling it like it was is just gross victim blaming. Yeesh, american schools seem like utter hellholes.

    ScarabDScarabD9 päivää sitten